PersonalGrowth & SelfEsteem

I was pleasantly happy to hear Dr Mel Gill giving a talk at the recent IMI2 held in Singapore Oct 12th to 14th.While most of the speakers talk about internet marketing, Dr Mel shares his wisdom on emotional mastery, a vital component in anything we do.
Dr Mel is a friend whom I have not seen for the past 3 years. He is a psychotherapist, psychologist and a famous TV/radio personality in Asia.A certified and licensed nlp master trainer, Dr Mel is also the the Founder of the Master Trainer Institute of New York and the President of the American Association of Master Trainers.He has been recognized by the Business Times and The Sentinel as the World’s #1 Asian American Motivational Speaker.Dr. Gill is now the President of the American Board of NeuroLinguistic Psychology.Dr Gill used to host a motivational talk show over radio in Singapore for 7 years.He is the author of a book “Uncommon Sense”

Here are the valuable notes that I took down….
His talk is full of witty jokes but each joke carries a powerful message.

• He showed us two interesting picture. As I do not have the picture, a similar example would be to imagine the controls of a plane or the cockpit. Can you see all the dials, knobs and gauges? That, my friend, is how a women thinks and makes a decision. Hence to control a women, you need to understand on how all the dials work together.
  Now imagine another picture…your home light switch. How does it look? Just a flab or button that works in up or down. That, ladies and gentlemen, is how man thinks. So ladies, see how easy it is to control a man?
  Well, you can hear the laughter of the audience when they were shown the two pictures. But in real life, that is how man and woman operate. Understand the picture and you will improve your communication or relationship with the opposite sex.
• One in four people in the world suffers some form of mental illness.
• The mind will complete any idea with up to 80% negative input.
• What the brain cannot see or understand, it deletes. He gave 3 sentences that demonstrates this. A volunteer from the audience was asked to read the statements and indeed he missed out some of the words.The words that was ‘deleted’ from his brain as he read the sentences was the letter ‘the’.
• As we grow older, our knowledge increases.( Do read my earlier post ‘can you become a millionaire‘.The last paragraph resonates well with what Dr Mel is saying).
• A graph was shown on the chances of man winning an argument with a lady. During dating, the success rate is 80%, during engagement, it is 50% and after marriage, it is 0%. Gee, how nice if you can visualize the graph. Very impactful.
• 13 traits of successful entrepreneurs were shown. To him, the most important trait is on ’self direction and unrelenting commitment to goals’.(If you are a non-believer in goals, please read another one of my earlier posts on goal setting secrets to help you achieve your goals).
• For those interested in nlp, a good introductory book is “Introducting NLP” by Joseph O Connors.
• He is now filming a show, The Meta Secret with Bob Proctor and Dr Michael Beckwith ( the teachers from TheSecret Movie ) and is expected to be released at the beginning of Jan 08.

He ended the talk explaining his new franchise programs.At early stages of launching worldwide.

Dr Mel is back in Singapore to open a new office with new product launches.
I had the privilege to attend his grand opening of his new office on 20 Oct.
Will be talking to one of his partners on the business aspect in the next few days and will do another posting then.

P/s: Some of us got free motivational posters which are ‘neuroactive’, like subliminal effect and a free neurophonics cd at the IMI2 seminar.