PersonalGrowth & SelfEsteem

Personal Growth & Self Esteem

As we search for our ultimate personal growth strategy and improving our self esteem, the bottom line is this…it is all about emotional mastery. Everything we do is literally to make us feel good, feel better, feel more confident etc.

Well, we can say that one of our top priorities in life is to make money. The question then is…what will the money do for us?

Just keep asking yourself ‘what will it do for me’ until you can no longer provide the answer to the question.

Deep, deep down the answers, it is about our feelings or emotions.

For example, the money will provide me with funds to buy a new car. What will the car do for me?..It will make me feel good or it will make me feel successful.

Therefore the formula is: make money= get something to exchange= a higher level of emotion.

Here then is the mother of all questions about how you lead your life…

Are you spending more time to master your emotions or are you spending more time to make money?

Our wheel of life has the same mold. At certain stages of our life we will experience or spend more time in the following main categories…financial, health,relationship,spiritual,emotional.

But all the categories have a common base, which is the emotional element.

So let me ask the question of the century again…..how much time do you spend to master your emotion?

Here is the tip for today on managing your emotions…

There are 3 main pillars that will affect our emotion at any given time.

Alter any one of them, and you can notice a change of state. Alter two or all three at the same time and you get exponential progress.

-Words/Language that you use daily.

-Physiology or how your gestures, body movement.

-Beliefs or your filters that has been programmed into your sub-conscious mind when you were young.

It is very easy to alter your words and physiology. Beliefs require more effort and more knowledge or tools.

For today, think about words that you use frequently…are they empowering or disempowering?

For me, the word ‘problem’ has hardly been used. It has been replaced by ‘challenge’.

For language, do start to be more aware to use questions instead of statements. Excellent communication tool to use to influence people to motivate them or to impart instructions t them.

As an example…if you like to go for a tour and you are thinking ‘I cannot afford it.’ Change it to a question…’HOW can I afford it?’

What happens now? Your mind suddenly seeks for answers instead of deciding that there are no solutions.

For physiology, go to YouTube and search for your favourite model and mimic their gestures, tone etc.

By model, I do not mean those sexy ladies. I mean the role model in each category. So for finance, I’d seek Donald Trump and imitate his gestures.

See if you feel any difference in your emotion when you try to mimic someone.

Enough for today.

Practise raising your standards in mastering your words and physiology for now.

Your personal growth or self esteem or self improvement journey will never be the same again!

Manage your emotions or your emotions manage you.